Where to meet singles in NYC without apps
Skip the apps: Out There lists 187 upcoming in-person singles events in NYC right now. Pick the kind of night you want below; each answer has a live count and links to what's on, and you sign up on the organizer's own site. Updated November 13.
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Speed dating
The most direct way: a host seats you for several short one-on-one dates in one evening, usually within an age range, and you say who you'd like to see again. 136 upcoming speed dating nights are listed in NYC right now.
Parties and mixers
For a looser night, go to a singles party, mixer or happy hour and mingle at your own pace. 51 upcoming parties, mixers and socials are listed, with speed dating left out.
Over 40
Pick nights whose age range starts at 35 or later and reaches 40 or above, so the room is your age. 34 upcoming events fit right now.
20s and 30s
Look for an age range that overlaps 21 to 39; most speed dating and mixers in the city are pitched here. 172 upcoming events fit: an age range that overlaps that span, or no stated age range.
LGBTQ+
Gay, lesbian, sapphic, bi and queer nights, speed dating included, are listed together. 29 upcoming LGBTQ+ singles events are on the calendar.
By borough
Upcoming singles events by area: Manhattan 113, Brooklyn 61, Queens 9, Jersey City 1 and Hoboken 2. Each area page lists them with neighborhoods and start times.
For a serious relationship
Look for nights billed as long-term or marriage-minded, and favor age-bracketed speed dating over large parties. 1 upcoming event is billed that way right now.
- Speed Dating for Long-Term & Marriage-Minded Singles · Fri, Nov 13 · Chelsea
Sober and alcohol-free
We don't currently list alcohol-free nights; if that changes they will show up here. The closest alternative is a night built around an activity, such as books, games or pickleball.
Exclusive and members-only parties
No upcoming events are billed as exclusive, members-only or invite-only right now. Entry rules are set by each host and noted on the event page when we have them; the organizers directory and the parties page are the places to look.
Organizers who host in bars
15 organizers have upcoming nights at a venue whose name says bar, pub, lounge or tavern (39 nights in all). Plenty of other venues are bars too without saying so in the name, so this undercounts.
- MyCheekyDate (7)
- Bored of Dating Apps (6)
- OnSpeedDating (4)
- CitySwoon (3)
- NY Minute Dating (3)
- Tiny Arts Supply (3)
- Asaya Events (2)
- Jigsaw Dating (2)
Where to meet singles in NYC: common questions
Where can I meet singles in NYC for a serious relationship?
Look for events billed as long-term or marriage-minded (they appear on the site when organizers run them) and use age-bracketed speed dating rather than large parties.
Are there sober singles events that don't involve drinking?
Not in the current catalog as of the last snapshot. If an organizer lists one, it will appear on this page and in the main list.
Who hosts exclusive singles parties?
Check the organizers directory and the parties hub; invitation or members-only rules are set by the host and are noted on the event page when we have them.